
We look at Dr Dan Siegel's Brain Hand model and the sequence of events that leads to unwanted behaviour.
Key Takeaway #1
Unwanted behaviour is not a choice
All behaviour, ‘good’ or ‘bad’, is an outward expression of whether a child’s nervous system is feeling regulated or dis-regulated on the inside. We explore why a child gets disregulated and the cues to look out for.
Key Takeaway #2
Unwanted behaviour is always triggered by an unmet need
The Iceberg Tool was created by Mona Delahooke from her book Beyond Behaviours. This tool will help you pause and look beneath your child’s behaviour with curiosity rather than rushing to fix the surface level behaviour. Check your email for a copy of the tool as a PDF worksheet.
Key Takeaway #3
Address the need rather than the behaviour
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